Enhancing Self Esteem

By Lynn Bradley

This was written to help individuals struggling with their self-esteem. Negative feelings about oneself paint a black picture that is highly exaggerated. We must reject such harsh attacks on our self-esteem. Article

Success in anything comes from self esteem. The Oxford University Press Dictionary defines self-esteem as confidence in one’s own worth or abilities. You gain confidence in your abilities by doing. The problem is that we usually never attempt something believed impossible. In other words, you have to believe you can do it, before you have the courage to try.

Most of us have an inferiority complex. We don’t believe in our heart we can achieve major success. We may set out to set the world on fire, but after a few of our blazes fizzle out, we come to the conclusion that we were not meant to be successful.

The feelings inside us keep saying that we are not good enough. They say we can’t be any more than mediocre, and it’s a struggle to go that far. Some of these feelings may result from past failures and some from the negative things we were told when growing up. When children attempt things and fail, they often receive negative comments from adults. It may even be insinuated that we will never amount to anything. We remember the negative things much longer then the positive ones, in fact, they haunt us the rest of our life.

The situation is no where near as bad as our negative feelings would lead us to believe. We must reject such harsh attacks on our self esteem. Everyone has a right to feel positive about themselves. The reason is as old as the world. We were created in the image of God! That doesn’t mean that we look like him, but that we have the stamp of approval of the Creator of the universe. We have every reason to hold our head high and expect to be a success, because that is what we were created for.

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So how do you stay calm, composed and maintain self esteem in a tough environment? Here are some tips you may to consider as a starter guide to self improvement.

Imagine yourself as a Dart Board. Everything and everyone else around you may become Dart Pins, at one point or another. These dart pins will destroy your self esteem and pull you down in ways you won’t even remember. Don’t let them destroy you, or get the best of you.  So which dart pins should you avoid?

Dart Pin #1 : Negative Work Environment
Beware of “dog eat dog” theory where everyone else is fighting just to get ahead. This is where non-appreciative people usually thrive. No one will appreciate your contributions even if you miss lunch and dinner, and stay up late. Most of the time you get to work too much without getting help from people concerned.  Stay out of this, it will ruin your self esteem. Competition is at stake anywhere. Be healthy enough to compete, but in a healthy competition that is.

Dart Pin #2: Other People’s Behavior
Bulldozers, brown nosers, gossipmongers, whiners, backstabbers, snipers, people walking wounded, controllers, naggers, complainers, exploders, patronizers, sluffers… all these kinds of people will pose bad vibes for your self esteem, as well as to your self improvement scheme.

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Self-Esteem comes from the Latin word which means to Estimate; so Self-Esteem is how you would Estimate yourself.

Self-Esteem effects how you look at yourself in the mirror; feel and talk about yourself, it’s important to know who you are and to value yourself.

Self-Esteem is knowing that you are worth a lot (priceless) but not bragging about how good you are, its how much you value yourself and how important you feel about your achievements, nobody is perfect but knowing that you worthy of being loved and accepted.

There are a number of people who are confident, when they fall into the public eye, such as politicians, actors, comedians, artists and the like, they seem to glow with assertiveness, some of these individuals, although they are attractive and world famous, they find it hard to value themselves, they feel insecure and they lack in self-esteem.

So what is self-esteem? It is not the same as confidence, that’s for sure!

So self-esteem means;

•  To value yourself highly without being pretentious
•  To have a positive attitude
•  Being confident in what you do
•  Liking yourself for who you are
•  Be deserving of love and happiness
•  Being a good human being and taking criticism as constructive to help you become a better person
•  You feel ok in both mind and body

    
If you suffer from low self-esteem you will struggle to associate the above with yourself, and you will lack self assurance and self respect.

Self-Esteem is important in knowing what you can do, be proud of yourself and hold your head up high, it gives you courage to try new things and to believe and respect yourself.

To be low on self-esteem means to not think highly of yourself and to criticize yourself too much, if you have low self-esteem you may not always think good of yourself and you think that you are not important.

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